1. A gentleman opens doors for a lady。
紳士會(huì)為女士開門。
As far as a gentleman is concerned, all women and girls should be treated as ladies. Opening a door is not a gesture of condescension, but rather courtesy and deference。
對(duì)于紳士而言,所有女性都應(yīng)該被當(dāng)成“女士”對(duì)待。開門不是一種謙虛的手勢(shì),更是禮節(jié)和尊重。
2. A gentleman walks closest to the curb。
紳士走在靠近路邊的一側(cè)。
The idea being, of course, to protect her from traffic, debris, puddles and other urban calamities。
這個(gè)做法是為了保護(hù)女士免收交通、碎石、水坑還有其他城市災(zāi)害。
3. A gentleman gives her his jacket。
紳士會(huì)為她披上自己的外套。
Especially when it's freezing. Especially when it's snowing. Especially in the rain. If she looks cold, she's cold. Just take your jacket off。
尤其是寒冷的天氣。尤其是下雪天。尤其是陰雨連綿,如果她身著單薄,她定是覺得寒冷。脫下你的大衣(給她披上)吧。
4. A gentleman rises when she enters the room。
紳士在她進(jìn)入房間時(shí)會(huì)站起身來。
You should also rise when she exits. At a meal, you stand when she excuses herself and again when she returns. Even a partial rising shows gentle manners, but it's best to fully stand if possible。
你也應(yīng)該在她離開時(shí)再次起身。在飯間,當(dāng)她借口離開時(shí)你也要起身,她回來時(shí)也一樣。甚至半起身也能展現(xiàn)你的良好教養(yǎng),但是如果可能的話,還是全身直立為好。
5. A gentleman gives compliments sincerely and often。
紳士時(shí)常給予真摯的贊美。
The first words out of your mouth when you meet a woman on a date should be along the lines of "you look stunning."
你和女士約會(huì)時(shí),從你口中說出的第一句話必然是:“你看上去美極了。”
6. A gentleman helps her to be seated。
紳士幫助她就坐。
1) Pull the chair out for her。
為她拉開椅子。
2) As her knees bend to sit, gently push the chair in with both hands on the backrest。
當(dāng)她屈膝坐下時(shí),輕輕雙手為她推進(jìn)椅背。
小編提示:把這點(diǎn)記在你的約會(huì)筆記里,是迅速提升好感的方法哦~
7. A gentleman says "please" and "thank you."
紳士會(huì)說“請(qǐng)”和“謝謝”。
Far too often overlooked, a simple "please" and "thank you" can go a very long way。
常常被忽略的一句簡單的“請(qǐng)”和“謝謝”恒久受用。
8. A gentleman minds his table manners。
紳士注重他的餐桌禮節(jié)。
Even if you've never mastered the continental style of using utensils (left hand, fork; right hand, knife), it doesn't take any training to not talk with your mouth full or chew with your mouth open。
即使你從不精通于使用歐式餐具(左手拿叉右手拿刀),嘴里塞得滿滿,或是咀嚼東西的時(shí)候不要開口說話,這不需要任何訓(xùn)練吧。
9. A gentleman is never rude to servers, bartenders, or anyone else for that matter。
紳士從不因任何事對(duì)服務(wù)員、調(diào)酒師,或其他人無禮。
There is nothing more offensive than someone who talks down to someone and treats them as if they were inferiors。
沒有什么比居高臨下同別人說話,還有對(duì)待他們似乎是自己的下級(jí)那樣更冒犯了。
小編提示:其實(shí)我們生活中很常見的一類人就是“snobbery”(擺紳士架子):ill-mannered, awful for everyone around you(無禮,并對(duì)你身邊的每個(gè)人態(tài)度惡劣)。
10. A gentleman pays。
紳士會(huì)你付錢。
Under no circumstances should she see the check or have any idea how much it is. A tight-lipped smile is your friend here, as always。
在任何情況都不能讓她看到你付了多少錢。一個(gè)抿嘴的微笑代表了你永遠(yuǎn)都是她的友人。
11. A gentleman listens。
紳士會(huì)傾聽。
Listening does not mean "waiting for your chance to talk." It means being attentive, learning to read responses, understand reactions, and navigate someone's emotional landscape。
傾聽并不代表“等待你開口訴說的機(jī)會(huì)。”這意味著你要很留心,學(xué)著去理解回答,理解回應(yīng),并引導(dǎo)他人的情緒。
12. A gentleman pays attention to details。
紳士注重細(xì)節(jié)。
Take mental notes. Her likes. Her dislikes. Her shoe size. Her ring size. Her favorite color. This information will prove useful and when it does –it shows you care。
在腦中記下這些細(xì)節(jié):她喜歡什么,不喜歡什么,她的鞋碼,她最喜歡的顏色。這些信息會(huì)證明它們的用處,用處一旦顯現(xiàn)——就證明你在意她。
13. A gentleman is a jack of all trades。
紳士樣樣全能。
A gentleman knows how to do things. He is confident and socially adroit, able to handle any situation that life throws at him。
一個(gè)紳士了解如何做事。他很自信,并且交際靈活,有能力掌控任何生活中的任何突發(fā)狀況。
14. A gentleman shows initiative。
紳士展現(xiàn)出主動(dòng)性。
If you're asked which dress, which pair of jeans, or which pair of shoes looks better...have an actual opinion. "They both look the same" or "whatever you like" are not actual opinions. Likewise, if you're asking someone on a date, have a destination in mind. Have a plan。
如果她問你哪條裙子,哪件牛仔褲,或是哪雙鞋更好看……真誠的給她建議。“它們看上去沒差,”或是“你喜歡就好”不是真摯的建議。同樣的,如果你要提出約會(huì),腦中要有個(gè)目的地,一個(gè)方案。
15. He goes out of his way to let her know he cares. Every. Single. Day。
他總會(huì)用自己的方式讓她知道,他在意她。每·一·天。
Flowers. Affectionate post-it notes. Simple compliments. All of those things add up. So show your affection every day。
鮮花,深情款款的留言,簡單的贊美,所有這些疊加起來,足以證明你日日的愛戀。